If a girl already has a boyfriend, should you tell her you like her?

I had a good friend who was dating a hottie for awhile before I met her, the first time he brought her around to the bar where I was working there was an instant attraction between us, my buddy was totally oblivious to the connection...in less than a week she was coming in alone or with another gf just to visit with me...so there was a hell of problem nail the gorgeous hottie and betray my buddy or leave her be and keep my friendship...I choose my buddy, she dumped him a couple weeks later...I bumped into her a couple years later and she gained 100lbs, and buddy my turned into a real arse and isn't my pal anymore...what's the moral to the story? I have no idea...I probably should've nailed her and at least I'd have some good memories...

sometimes it can make you dead, should always be aware of who you're messing around with...

 

To be young and naive .

 

Ha! Nice. That seems to be a recurring theme for me as well. It's almost like an unwritten rule. There will always be inevitable chemistry with my friends' girlfriends. Stupid forbidden fruit.

YOLO, bro. I've had enough girls taken away from me over the years not to give a (*)(*)(*)(*) anymore.

 

Keep it to yourself...

... give it some time...

... mebbe they'll break up...

... then you can tell her.

 

So what, whenever you ask someone out for coffee you've got to get out the marriage celebrant and get hitched? The entire point of pre-marriage relationships is that you're not entirely committed yet. I'm not saying you should drop your relationships at the first sign of trouble, but if you no longer feel it you no longer feel it. That decision should be up to her.

Whether it's a good idea is up to him. He runs the risk of ruining the friendship.

 

Never get a girlfriend, only spin plates. At least till your about 30 something.

 

Just remember how free and open you are when your girlfriend goes out for some brews with the boys .

 

Why so many people want their partners to be dogmatically devoted to them, even when they don't love you anymore, is beyond me.

I don't expect my partner to not be asked to leave our relationship - I expect her to say no. If she does break up with me that doesn't make her a bad partner. That's pretty much what I'm disputing.

 

Should have said your second part at the beginning , because I 100 percent agree . I just wouldn't advise a guy to get with a girl who does that , because you have no idea of how their relationship actually was and she could just be a girl who needs constant attention and approval . I've been around the block , learned a lot about crazy girls . That's why I love my wife and she loves me , because we have complete trust in each other .

 

Before you start a flirtatious, or even the slightest casual relationship with her, you better gather some data about her boyfriend. He might be a big, burly, tough guy and kick your butt.

 

Yeah, that sort of devotion is very much to be expected in marriage.

 

As a man who was part of destroying a marriage (not intentional, but she did pull the gun out of my mouth) I can say no it is not worth it. Either she breaks up with him or not, but do not interfere. It sucks don't get me wrong, but you don't want to put that weird pressure on her. It could make things (*)(*)(*)(*)ed up for her. Then again I need to get over respecting women so do what you want.