We are two different generations, old timer. If I was a part of yours, I would no doubt be in a committed relationship as well. Our two eras cannot talk about the subject of men/women, because there is no common denominator. My generation is savages, and the stepping stones that moved people on in a capitalist society have all but been erased. We feel as disenfranchised in our 30s and 40s as we did at 16. No hope brings morals paper thin.
I agree that people can and do change. But the fundamentals of life remain the same. The fact that man and woman commit to each other will never change as long as society remains no matter what any generation says or does. You still haven't answered my question.
I am as qualified to post based upon my observations as anyone on this thread, as I didn't read a disclaimer mentioning only sociologists need to respond.
I have no problem with that. But it seems that your observations are just that, the observations of one person. Not an expert in any field with qualifications to make statements to that effect.
Honestly, I have been around the block, and know a lot of people. There are exceptions to every rule, and my opinion is biased based upon region, age, class, etc. You show me someone on this thread who isn't speaking from their own observations. Women are very calculating creatures, and even enemies keep each others secrets safe from the ears of men. A one woman man, for decades, knows as much of woman in general as a guy who plays basketball in his driveway for decades knows of basketball. You are the one speaking from little experience, even if you could make a basket on your driveway blindfolded.
It seems to me that you are a self proclaimed expert. So tell me, how many women are you basing your " observations " on. 1, 10, 100, 1,000 or more? You are also not taking into consideration that I to may have been around the block a few times in my younger years. Are you speaking for all women or just the few that you have had any contact with. As you said, we are generations apart. Which in essence can also mean that I and others like me are light years ahead of you in experience with women.
This back and forth between you two is entertaining if nothing else. This is also very thought provoking, are committed relationships dead? Drawing on my friends and parents experiences half the time they aren't worth the trouble, then again i see the few happy couples i know and the ones that im certain are monogamous (not all religious mind you) and it gives me some hope after all...sigh
I got a question for you old timer. What's going on with Snow King? I'm just a stone's throw away from you in south east Idaho, and liked going to concerts there. Was the closet place to see quality acts. They find a buyer? Are they going to keep it the same?
Last I heard there are several companies that have shown some interest in buying it. I hope that they keep it the same. Good skiing, restaurants and concerts
Depends on what sort of partner that you have. If it is entirely a sex based thing, then fine, I guess you need not care. If it isn't, then I find the idea that you do not care/bother, rather perplexing. May just be me. *Shrugs*
Isn't it a pain when you really get on with someone, they know all about your good and bad points, accept you for them, technically, you would be a really good couple - but you are not physically attracted to him or her. Anyone had that?
Once many years ago before I got married. Because there was no physical attraction we both went our seperate ways.
It's a shame though. I have had this female friends for a while, and she suits me in EVERY single way, save for the fact that I am not physically attracted to her. Such a shame, I almost wish I could be, somehow. Think I am going to end it with this girl I began seeing, about three weeks ago. Some of her behaviours are starting to weird me out, OT. Too moody, for one thing.
For sure. At first, I was really taken with her, but then she began to do and say things that chilled me. And I am not easily spooked. But the very last thing I need, esp at my age, is to get involved with someone that v likely has at least one, but probably several, personality disorders.
Of course, OT, of course. My point being that were I 20, I could 'afford' to waste time on something which I believe is broken. Then put it down to experience, when it crashed. I am 42. Seen a lot of things in life, including girls with many issues that cannot be resolved. I don't have the energy to take on that sort of crap now, if you see what I mean? Example of something that spooked me. She has a four year old kid, just turned four. She seems angry at him, all the time. Now, I know and appreciate that kids can test your patience, but when she casually told me that she had grabbed him, looked right in his face, and said 'Unless you do what you are told, mummy is going to end up doing something that will see her go to prison', well, could be just me, but that is just wrong. I am no soft touch with kids, but doesn't saying that to a four year old tell you something?
I disagree. That is no way to either talk to or treat a child that young. It seems to me that that woman has some serious problems.
Not sure he was talking about that, chap. But I do agree, she does. It's not just that, but in such a short space of time, her moods swing so widly. Sometimes, OT, to understand the person, one must look to their past. Mother had Muchhausens(sp?). Mother married her dad - twice. Then left them - twice. Then her mother died, five years ago. And there is something else, something I cannot put my finger on, you know when you get a feeling that someone just is not right, upstairs?
Sure. It's called platonic friendships - Everyone should have those - I had and still enjoy my good conversations/fun times w/a man who's like a brother to me....
If I may offer some advise? Get rid of her. These very unpredictable 'gloom and doom' people are very unhealthy to be around. They can suck you into their black, depressing world b/f you know it....... Quite a few yrs ago I started dating a guy like that, didn't take me long and realized what he was- everything was negative, unfair, chronic complainer, he'd get angry about the smallest thing that shouldn't have mattered to him, etc etc etc ...... I dropped him fast. I just can't be around people like that......
It's not you, it's her. That 4 yr old needs a guardian angel looking out for him and I hope you, if you're up to it, can take on that role..... A stable, loving mother would never say that to her kid - never There's something wrong w/her........
