The Marriage Strike. Men are you putting off marriage for good?

I expect it is a tradition stemming from the days when men had some morality and sense of responsibility and some of them were even decent and intelligent enough to think it their responsibility to look after their own family.

Times change indeed.

As to why men still "do it"...if they didn't, you might soon find yourself out in the cold and the human race at an end.

 

I'm not going to take your word for it.

Because I'm not a collectivist and you ain't the boss of me.

 

I never married. And for the life of me, I don't understand why men want to get married.

Is the pull to have children so great that despite all the warning signs, men are still willing to do it?

 

I am not as cynical as some of the other confirmed bachelors posting on this topic. I have nothing against the institution of marriage and raising off-spring in the context of a committed relationship...it's simply not something I'm suited for...personally. That doesn't translate into writing the whole thing off as a "bad idea." I think it's a great idea and statistics bear this out; that children raised by two parents in a committed relationship, such as marriage...fare better in life in terms of being well-adjusted....

Statistically speaking of course.

 

I can understand wanting to get married, to a specific person. However people who are eager just 'to get married' to someone probably don't have much life experience, and those relationships end badly.

 

This makes sense to me. There are people who marry their childhood sweat heart. A person like this might say to themselves "there is no way my best friend will hurt me."

Then there is religious people. They want to channel their sexuality thru marriage. And because they believe in God and think that divorce is wrong, they stay together with their partners. They try to make the marriage work.

But in the US, there are guys who have a "hunger" for marriage. That I don't understand.

 

Desperation.

 

Desperation.

 

At 40 the thought of being in any sort of relationship was way off or me.

Too long single and too set in my ways.

Then up pops the teenage girl friend after 28 years….and her 3 year old girl, on face book.

We’ve been together for 2 years now and life is better than ever.

They both love camping, fishing and sport. The missus loves having a beer, we share a very similar sense of humor, like the same shows/movies and are directly opposed politically, which is interesting to say the least.

If I had got married in my 20’s I would never have lasted.