I'm pretty sure the people who defend the feminist sexual exploitation of children just come here during their refractory period inbetween looking at children on the internet themselves-know what I'm saying????
Compromise isn't really a bad thing. You obviously shouldn't be accepting of abuse just because she might look good. That's BAD compromise. Like thinking she/he might want children one day if you stick around after they've said NO WAY. That would be a very bad disagreement and could waste years of your life. I've seen it with one friend. Not pretty. Good compromise is not agreeing on what camping means or not liking the same food. She might not drink socially and you do. All negotiable and easily remedied.
nice, well hey she is out there. Dont worry... and if you can't find her soon there is always match.com.
No, I wanted to see a serious discussion in what people are looking for when they are looking for a serious committed relationship. I have no experience in this matter and i wanted to learn some things that I didn't know about.
The longer the list the less likely that you will find a mate. But when I was dating I told myself that I would rather be alone than to settle. Lucky for me a good woman found me and we have been happily married for 3 years now and still get told that we are like newlyweds. My list was short with things like must be honest, compassionate, a good person, no self destructive behaviors... etc.
It's not a vey long list when you really look at things. As one example, I knew this one couple who were married. One was a Catholic, the other was a pagan who worshiped Thor. They often fought and i often saw her with a black eye. Why would i want anything like that? I've been through some pretty abusive stuff in my life, and that is what that lsit is for, to look out for those who are abusive. I really don't see what that is unreasonable. And if women can set their sights on a high value kind of guy because they think they are worth, why can't I? I am a man, aren't i not worth it? There is a lot of variety within that list. For example, skin color doesn't matter to me. There are a lot of mean abusive women out there, and I just don't want that at all. You see, that's a huge flaw in people. If they don't understand something they are going to automatically assume the worse and go from there. just like what happened with this thread. That list is not really all that unreasonable, unless you think I'm just unworthy of it and am one of those kinds of guys who has no value.
TBH, Tram Law, I don't know the purpose of the above post, but it is unlikely to elicit many positive responses. From the males (like myself) it is likely to elicit a ... "There you go again - mistaking me for someone who gives the proverbial flying fox for what you like in women ..." type of reaction, and from the females, something along the lines of "What an arrogant prick - I wouldn't date him if he were the last man alive!" Your 'shopping list' is arrogant, patronising, and treats females as though they are an alien species identifiable only by their qualities as a commodity. I have only just turned 20, so I claim no expertise in winning the fairer sex, but my GF (who is a few years older than me,) and I have been together since I left high school, and I doubt I would have been so lucky if I had taken attitudes similar to those expressed in your post. I am the first to admit that I am probably more in love with my GF than she is with me, but given the facts that she is intelligent, accomplished, beautiful, and cultured, and I am - well, just me - a pretty average looking and impecunious student who is not overly bright - that is to be expected. The purpose of mentioning this is to illustrate that love may be blind, but it is the only genuine basis upon which to build a lifelong relationship. It doesn't matter how bossy, or accommodating, how domineering or accepting, how reserved or outgoing, and how alike your interests may be, the female is the ideal life companion for most males, they are special and what makes us complete as a person. I was not yet seventeen when I met her, and I had no lists or boxes to tick, but my life has been incomparably better since we have been together. And I am sure all the couples on this board have a similar story to tell. So my advice, FWIW, is forget about your list of requirements, when you meet her - you will know.
The list is not arrogance. There are certain things I simply will not accept no matter how much I have feelings for her. If you've ever been in an abusive relationship or around domineering arrogant manipulative witches who will use any dirty rotten trick to control you and put you down, then you'd understand the purpose of the list. And I'm sorry, but I simply will not turn myself into a Mangina just to please a woman. I will never put up with being treated in an awful manner such again, and i don't understand why you manginas think I have to. I will not settle. This is not just about getting laid. I am not that kind of guy either. What I want is a meaningful romantic relationship with a woman. That's what that kind of a list is for. I don't understand why you guys think I have to just "man up" and take being treated with abusive junk. I'm sorry, but I will not have it. Insult me and put me down as being arrogant all you want. You see, this also brings out a double standards. Women make a list it's "you go girl". Men make a list it's "You're a retard". Wizard's first rule.
Many women make lists like this all the time, ever read Cosmo. I think it's interesting women and white knight (*)(*)(*)(*)(*) beggars have a problem when a man does the same thing.
For the most part I agree and would use the catchall phrase of she must be a good woman. One problem I found in dating in my 40's after my first marriage ended was that you hardly ever get to see the real person when dating because most were so busy with appearances and trying to look good. I was just myself flaws and all. I dated a number of "strong women" and found that they were not for me. The reason being is from my perspective they were strong for all the wrong reasons. For example almost every woman I met up with told me at least one story of past abuse... and when I slip on my Freudian slippers I deduce that they were overcompensating in the strength department as a protective measure to keep from being steamrolled by a strong man and getting hurt again. The problem was that it made them unable to be vulnerable or fallible which is just unrealistic and the death rattle for any healthy relationship. But many men do the same thing. I got lucky with my wife as I was about to give up when she messaged me. She is strong when she needs to be but always loving and caring towards all. And when she shows her soft side which is most of the time, she melts my heart. Strength is good but it needs to be modulated and not always on full bore. Its hard to have a romantic moment with a woman who cannot be vulnerable... believe me I tried with one of the women I dated and it did not work out well. My best advice is who cares what I or others think about your list. Find the mate that works for you and do not settle! I wish you the best of luck in your search and may you be as happy as I am in my relationship or even happier!
Thank you.\ very much for that response. I'm glad you found what you were looking for. not everyone can have that kind of luck though. But you want to know one thing? I've looked a t a lot of videos on you tube about people who go on about how there's no good woman and no good man and I've found one flaw in it. They don't define what they mean by good woman and they do not give any specific details. And a lot of that whining is very very shallow. But I have no more interest in this thread because of the retarded trolls. And I'm not going to post another thread like this again. They've won, they've managed to silence me on this site on this subject. I hope they're happy.
Trouble is, you seem to think that any sort of compromise turns you into a "Mangina". (Never mind the inherent putdown of women in that word). Being in a relationship with someone you care about sometimes means: 1. Putting their needs ahead of your own; 2. Saying you were wrong even if you think you weren't; 3. Going out of your way to avoid an argument; 4. Doing something you don't want to do simply because she wants to, and acting like you enjoy it. Note the "sometimes". You do not have to surrender your soul and your own life to have a happy relationship. But if you always have to do your thing, and always make her do hers on her own, you don't have a relationship: you have a roommate.
Feminists sexually exploit little girls as young as 6 by making them say sexually provocative words such as the F word to promote feminism and sell t-shirts. http://www.theblaze.com/stories/2014...causes-a-stir/
