Average male only has 6-8 female sex partners in their lifetime

The add:

"Okay, I’m tired of beating around the bush. I’m a beautiful, spectacularly beautiful twenty five year old girl. I’m articulate and classy. I’m not from New York. I’m looking to get married to a guy who makes at least a half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don’t think I’m over reaching at all. Are there any guys who make 500k or more on this board? Any wives? Could you give me some tips? I dated a businessman who makes around 200-250k, but that’s where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250k won’t get me to Central Park West. I know a woman in my yoga class, who is married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she’s not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. What is she doing right? How do I get to her level? "


The response:

"I meet all of your qualifications, as I work on Wall Street, and earn well over 500k per year. In economic terms you are a depreciating asset, while I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates. Let me explain. You’re twenty five now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next five years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35, stick a fork in you. So, in Wall Street terms we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold. Hence the rub, marriage, it doesn’t make good business sense to buy you, which is what you’re asking, so, I’d rather lease. In case you think I’m being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you. So, when your beauty fades, I need an out. It’s as simple as that. So, the deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage."

 

From my experience, at least my generation now, most guys aren't interested in getting with as many women as possible. A lot of guys now are really interested in finding the right woman and settling down and having a family, and the few others not so interested in that seem to focus more on their careers and just date on the side. But I dunno, that's just how it seems to me. The stereotype of a man having had sex with a lot of women just doesn't appear to be all that true anymore from my perspective.

 

I wouldn't say 'anymore', I mean when would you say it was more true in the past?

But yeah that reflects my thoughts - I see guys, all the time, who just don't even bother to try to talk to women - it's not like they've got anything to lose or that anything's stopping them, they just don't. If they just talked to more women, they'd have no problem with meeting women - the main thing that stops them is simply not trying. If you just talk to a woman, the standards for 'getting laid' aren't really that high.

 

Don't you think that has a lot to do with the age group you associate with? Most men, somewhere around the age of thirty, seem to become more interested in family than in getting laid.

 

Yeah but even in middle and high school this didn't seem to be the thing for a lot of guys either. In fact it seemed more like the girls were interested in relationships and dating. I mean there is that stage we all go through where the new experience of meeting your first bf/gf and having your first kiss and maybe having sex with them is such a big deal, but after you've gotten over that 'hump', pardon the pun, of new relationship experiences it becomes not such a big deal anymore, especially for men I think. For women, well women are always obsessed with their relationship issues, can't stop talking about for a second whether they're dating, married or divorced. lol At least my female friends are and my own mother. Gossip, gossip, gossip. But that's only if things aren't going so well in the relationship. When things are going well for my female friends I never hear so much as a peep out of them except for the occasional, "Oh yeah, things are great."

I am obviously only speaking from my own limited experience with my generation of peers of course so I don't know how true it is or not, but that is the impression I have gotten from both men and women regarding sex and relationships.

 

I agree. In fact it makes me wonder how such a stereotype for men even started. Maybe it was due to the generation change going from deeply religious and rooted moral values surrounding sex (don't have sex til marriage) started to change and more and more people were having sex before marriage so they started to blame men and told their daughters, "All he wants is your body! So you take good care of it and tell him no!"

That's just a wild guess though.

I can understand why some guys avoid relationships and avoid talking to women all together, women are well known for starting and provoking drama and problems. I have known many, many women who are the cause of the issues in their relationships and guys know this and just don't want to deal with it.

 

That's nice. Ummm...thanks for the info?

 

Uncle Ferd says, shoot...

... dat's how many he has inna bad month...

... `cause he's the Love Man...

... an' alla womens know dis his theme song...

I'm a Love Man
by Otis Redding

 

that was probably just the names of the ones they remembered

 

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Nah, with the influx of video games, free Internet porn, and increased obesity and a lack of interest in working out, or even just getting one's ass out of that easy chair, I who-heartedly believe it's accurate - hell, if anything it might be even lower, as surprising as that may sound - given that men would probably be embarrassed to admit they are a virgin, or haven't had many encounters.

My other thought is that the men my not be including prostitutes.

 

I suspect this poll. I guess 5 or more is a pretty limited criteria. I have had more than 5, and more than 6 and so on. Its not anything I am proud of but come on, lots of people have lots of stupid sex.

If you have had few partners with short relationships you have a problem you need to work on. If you have had few, or even one, partner and have had a long relationship then you are what we should all be. If you have a lot of partners, (much more than six), with short relationships please stop and get professional help, you are hurting yourself and everyone else close to you.

But I refuse to let a poll tell me what is normal.

 

How is that? I fail to see it.

 

Sex addiction, male of female, is harmful. What good does it do anyone? How can individuals be responsible for the way they change/hurt others while they pursue empty sensation?
Relationships are important, they wont always be perfect, but you will always learn something, and they will direct you towards a better understanding of self.
Ideally you should find one person who you can grow and mature with sexually and personally.

Honestly the pursuit of sex for its own sake is not much more than masturbation with another person acting as your hand. And can have horrible consequences.

I am sorry if this offends you.

 

Having more than 6 partners means you have sex addiction? #stupidfalsegeneralisations

 

Not at all.

But six or less is average??????

Who is this post catering to?

Why should anyone care about whether they are above or below average?

 

By that standard having more than 6 drinks in your life means you are an alcoholic.

 

I'd say that true 'addicts' most likely seek out prostitutes regularily, but according to the stats most men have never used a prostitute.

 

I just find it so hard to believe. I really think it depends if you're working poor or middle class, religious or non religious, where you take the poll, etc.
I could go down to the local bar and claim, "the results are in! The average American has had sex with 97 people!"

If I had to guesstimate an average of all I have known, I'd say 20-30 is the average. But I have known plenty in the hundreds. You have tons of people who don't want relationships but love the thrill of the chase, and tons who are attractive and fun but simply aren't "relationship material" to the opposite sex. Should the latter be chastised and put down? I think not. Plus you have 100 million or so overweight Americans, the majority who weren't when they were young. So the 1-6 came before the dude got fat, or before she got married and let herself go, so can't get laid after the divorce. Lots of factors. Weight loss is a huge industry because it is so hard with how bad for you the majority of our food is. Basically, even if the stats are right on the head, with how depressed, drugged up, and overweight our nation is, there is no telling the rationale behind the numbers. It would be one thing if they had asked, "and how many would it have been if you had your way?". Then we could dive into the psychology of the stats.

 

I've been intimate with about 14 different women in the past 3 years, and I've never been 'addicted' to sex, and never used a prostitute.

 

I have a friend that in his short span of life(21 years) has been with aproximately 30 different women. And he is neither famous neither has a big male instrument He is somewhat an exception, maybe.

 

Does he play guitar?

 

Yes hypergamy exists, but humans have not had currency long enough to have evolved a conditioned response to mere digits in an electronic account. Just having money is not going to stir female attraction. It's all the things that come with money, the fast car, the flashy clothes, and most importantly the confident attitude that you're "master of the universe (as wall street types used to think of themselves)." There are lots of guys who could take women away from someone like Bill Gates, even though hardly anyone can match Gates in the money department.

 

Thanks for clarifying my point.

 

Whatever that means... Honestly, the drivel some men post on this. If you've managed to bed a woman, you must frequent the Stupid Woman club or you must buy a lot of drink or be quiet around women for them not to see what's going on in your head.

I agree with the poster who said the quickest way to lose the interest of a high status male is to give it up and if you're a calculating type, then follow those odds. Men like to win. They want to think they are getting something worth having. They compete for the most pointless of things just in order to win. If they think other men want you, you're in.

Possibly women, like men, accept the best available male. Surprise...

I don't think the stats are accurate. I too know many women with significantly higher scores than those and hordes of men higher.