I think I was date-raped last weekend, what should I do?

so why was I, who was drunk off my ass, able to consent, yet women, who may be equally as drunk by their own accord (not drugged or anything by a man) are somehow NOT able to consent?

I'm not talking passed out.... just (*)(*)(*)(*)-faced. The ole puke and rally situation.

Passed out is clearly date-rape.... but simply trashed should not give you a reprieve from bad choices you make. It gave me an excuse as to why I fawked this fat chick.... but it wasn't anymore or less a daterape had she been the drunk one and I was the regrettable choice.

 

If you started out with consent, and you didn't pass out, your consent stands. I don't see the issue, unless you at some point tried to change your mind and stop contact, then it was done with consent.

 

that's a great theory.... but if a woman told my story, she can give consent, finish the deed.... regret the decision after the fact and claim the alcohol led her to that decision, and have the man's life ruined by claiming she was date-raped.

 

Could it be because for quite some years now, one gender has been under pressure to "modernise" their attitude, to recognise and consider everything positive about, and feel inferior to, the members of other gender? While a number of the members of the other gender has been indoctrinated with a "gimme" agenda, with one foot firmly embedded in the twelfth century, and the other stamping in demand for advantage.

Wrong mind set for genuine equality.

 

ahh yes, the old "our hypocracy is allowed because of what my GRANDMOTHER went through....."

 

That's how you read that? I read the opposite.

 

lol.... yes.... you're right....

 

well, I never called the date-rapist back and she got upset with me (like I did something wrong). A month goes by, and she text me again. She promised she would never do that again to me and that she was really sorry.....

is it true, once a rapist, always a rapist? or does that only apply to wife-beaters?

 

I thought that was of liars and thieves.

 

I thought it was also cheaters..... I guess, it's whatever's convenient (so long as its not against women, that is)

 

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LOL. If this is real introduce me to your friend. I think I am decent looking, works out regularly, with a decent pay check, but living a lifestyle far away from having the luxury of being "date raped" by ladies and "complaining" about it.

Get a life.

 

I only complained about it because I regretted it the next morning.... I was completely impared, she knew it, and even said later she knew I was drunk when she came to get me, that's why she came to get me.

if a guy did this all to a girl, he'd be locked away for 20 years and his life would be ruined. lest we forget, women can be held accountable for their decisions while drunk for stuff like DUI, but not for regrettable sex

 

If you're really that upset about then why aren't you charging her with date rape?

You're sitting here crying 'double-standard!' but you haven't even attempted to take it to court, so of course it seems like a double standard when you're doing absolutely nothing about it.

 

Laws related to sex and meant to protect the females, long before the age of gender equality. There is a biological common sense that men took advantage out of women in such situations, this is not always the case but if an unjust situation occurs, that is the norm.

I remember a case law of a girl fertilised herself through manipulating the semen of her boyfriend after a blowjob and got her pregnant. Her boyfriend was devastated as he was not ready to be a father and sued the girl for compensation. The Judge rules that semen were "gift" in the situation mentioned above and she is not liable to pay him compensation but the boy was excused of the obligation to financially support the child. I forgot which state it was. But I guess the best you could get out of the date rape accusation is a immunity against raising a child if there happens to be one.

Disclaimer: I am not a lawyer giving advice and this is just my wild guesses. Do your own research!

 

so if a girl doesn't want to take what she feels is rape, to the authorities..... for whatever reason, is it any less of a rape?

Why do I have to take it to court..... What if I am ashamed and feel like I'm a whore and don't want people to know? Do I get the same identity protection?

 

Look, if you truly feel you were raped then take it to court. I would say the same thing to any woman who was whining about how she was taken advantage of and was date raped but refused to go to court over it. If a person truly believes they have been raped then they need to go to the authorities.

If you are that scared and that traumatized and don't want to go through the court process then seek help! Go get some therapy. What else do you want us to say to you? This is all the same advice that can be given to anyone who claims they were date raped. Do something about it.

 

I want you to say I did nothing wrong, like you would tell a woman who found themselves in the same situation.... lol

 

Ok, you did nothing wrong, but nothing is going to change if you don't do anything about it either.

 

Did you say "no" or "don't" or "stop" at any time during the sexual encounter?

If not, then you were not raped.

In fact, you even said "we started kissing". That means you were both into it.

Stop drinking to the point of being out of control and you won't have this problem.

BTW, how in the (*)(*)(*)(*) can someone kiss someone who just puked?

 

I don't believe posts like this.....someone just playing around.

 

you're preaching to the choir here man..... but that excuse wouldn't hold up in court if the genders in my story was reversed....

that would not matter if it was a girl that was drunk and the guy was sober....

lol... I thought the same thing... I did brush my teeth for her before the daterape though.... I'm a considerate victim, if nothing else.

 

I will say it really did happen. I really was that drunk and she came and got me and we had sex and I regretted it the next day as she turned into a stage 5 clinger. But I don't believe I was "date-raped" any more than a girl who does the same thing I did. As I remembered what happened the night in question to me, I thought about "what would have happened had I done this exact same thing to this girl.... she didn't like me like that, but if she got drunk, and I picked her up and we end up having sex and SHE regretted that decision the next morning.... well, everyone on here would say I date-raped her because of her drunk condition.

but for those that believe in karma.... and I know noone here will believe it and just think this is a troll, but this past weekend, she got vodka wasted at a wedding and needed a ride home. I was the only sober person to answer her text and I drove 30 minutes to get her. She had some 23 y.o. trying to get with her pretty hard and she was needing someone to get her. well, we had sex because I'm not driving 30 minutes for nothing.

so, if she date-raped me back then, then I guess I date-raped her Saturday night. if she DIDN'T date-rape me last time, I didn't date-rape her this weekend. I still don't like her in that way, but I guess the universe is right.

 

No, you weren't raped. Whatever you might feel about this man in normal circumstances, after all that drink he reminded you of Sean Bean, or whomever and you went for it with enthusiasm. It happens to us all, so don't be too hard on yourself - but if it happens again you should limit your drinking, as you can't handle it.

 

Oh dear. One of those, eh?