What should this Woman Tell Her Son?

there is nothing in this story to suggest the husband did anything wrong, other than your assumption that for a woman to cheat, the man had to drive her to it, theory

 

This is exactly why sometimes I wonder if interracial babies should be aborted.

 

What a filthy racist thing to say....and from a CHRISTIAN who rails and whines against abortion.....

 

Funny that you would actually view this as an acceptable time to have an abortion, on a perfectly healthy fetus. LOL! Ooohhhh the irony of it all.

 

So is someone going to attempt to explain how staying in a relationship with a cheater is 'good' for any of the kids? All that you're doing by that is letting your kids know from an early age that 'cheating or being cheated on' is no big deal, because the whimpy husband (or wife) will just take you back anyway?

Or how is lying to a kid and telling him "I'm your daddy" when he's going to find out years later that you weren't really his daddy a good thing either?

 

How are the children going to know that one of the parents cheated on the other?

What's the absolute worst that can happen if they do find out years later? They'll cry, talk it out and then realize their father who adopted them loves them as if they were their own biological child and they love their parent and move on with life. Gosh isn't it so terrible?

 

The couple already have another kid who is theirs, and therefore older than this one - the kid is a different race so he is going to eventually find out that the 'dad' is not his father, so obviously he's going to know that his mom had an affair - and that the dad didn't stand up for himself and stayed with her - so if someone cheats, then it's no big deal because they'll pretty much get off Scott free - that's what the kid will think.

Are you kidding me - you think that if he lied to him about being his real father that the kid will just 'get over it'? - I mean lying about Santa Claus is one thing, but that's just in a whole different league.

 

What makes you think the child will automatically jump to this conclusion? What makes you think they will think any less of their adoptive father for staying with their mother? What makes you think they won't ask their parents why they made the choices they did and try to understand from their parents point of view? You are just jumping to way too many conclusions and making too many assumptions without knowing anything else about these people let alone the thought processes of the children.

So are adoptive parents lying to their adoptive child when they tell the child they are that child's mother and father?

And again, what is the worst that can happen if they find out that person is not really their parent?

 

So you believe in divorce? That's interesting because you quote the New Testament, which also says:

They said, “Moses permitted a man TO WRITE A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE AND SEND her AWAY.” But Jesus said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment. “But from the beginning of creation, God MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE. “FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH; so they are no longer two, but one flesh. “What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

-Mark 10: 4-9

 

Actually the Bible says in cases of infidelity divorce is acceptable - in fact in the OT if a woman committed adultery she would have been stoned to death, so the nothing in the Bible indicates that a man is obligated to stay with a woman who's a cheater just because "they're one in the flesh".