and that's fine. I agree, but also, questions do need to be asked of the 'victim' to determine if she was actually a victim or just someone who changed her mind after the fact. If you claim to have had 1000$ stolen from you and you know who did it, people are allowed to ask "was it stolen, or did you lend it to them and they can't pay it back" because there is a HUGE difference. if you had sex and claim you were raped, people are allowed to ask "were you really raped, or is there an alterior motive like revenge, regret, you have a boyfriend and you don't want to let having sex with a random guy at a party affect your relationship, so you claim you were dateraped. Because it makes a difference. I do realize there are legitamate rapes and by investigators being allowed to ask the victim questions, they can actually determine if it really was rape, or just regrettable sex - - - Updated - - - and that's fine. I agree, but also, questions do need to be asked of the 'victim' to determine if she was actually a victim or just someone who changed her mind after the fact. If you claim to have had 1000$ stolen from you and you know who did it, people are allowed to ask "was it stolen, or did you lend it to them and they can't pay it back" because there is a HUGE difference. if you had sex and claim you were raped, people are allowed to ask "were you really raped, or is there an alterior motive like revenge, regret, you have a boyfriend and you don't want to let having sex with a random guy at a party affect your relationship, so you claim you were dateraped. Because it makes a difference. I do realize there are legitamate rapes and by investigators being allowed to ask the victim questions, they can actually determine if it really was rape, or just regrettable sex
I'm happy to say I was never a part of such nonsense in my college days. I was among those who were there to learn, not party and get laid. But this is what happens when all of this rabble gets into college. Not everyone is an academic at heart, so you get a bunch of beer-swilling proles partying and f**king on or near campus, and of course many of them have immature, hormonally driven ideas about what is appropriate and what is not, hence these incidents of gang rape and such that occur. If you want to avoid it, avoid those people. I didn't have a ton of "friends," but at least I had a couple and I never harmed any vulnerable young women. Culturally speaking, I would love to see more personal responsibility and a sense of honor and respect for all other people, women included, better encouraged among all people, and youth especially. However, that will only be so effective. You will always have abusers. They're a part of humanity, and a fairly large part of it at that.
I have found that to be the case only when I don't have enough money to be called eccentric. Otherwise, you would be amazed at how some women evolve better client relations skills when enough money is involved.
I love it when i can be moral enough to be honest for short term relationships with nice girls who don't have a problem with it.
