Your child says I'm gay. What do you do?

And see.....the expectations are all about YOUR expectations. Respect is to honor your parents not you. That sometimes takes sacrifice. For that reason I say....if there is tension in the family, and if your relationship with your parents is not what it used to be.......I think it is inaccurate to put the blame on them. There are things you could do but perhaps you have too much importance in other things.

 

Not a chance of that happening.

Hey, here is another solution if a child say's their gay....Take them target shooting in the woods.
While driving there, stop by a grocery market and purchase an apple. If the kid questions why the apple?
Tell the story about "William Tell".

"Darn it, I missed"..."OoPPS"!!

 

Homosexuality upsets some people so much that they think and/or act in irrational ways. It rears its ugly head in violent gay bashing, parents disowning children or hurting them by violent attack. I can't see that kind of hate toward anyone let alone ones child. It makes no sense.

 

Respect and honor is earned. They are roads that run in both directions.
In my family there is a tension but it certainly was not because I did not attempt the respect and honor that you are speaking about. I informed them in a fair an loving way when I told them. I did not show up with my girlfriend at the door. I did not bring her home until much of the early drama had passed.
MY mother told me I didn't try hard enough to be straight. That was not respecting who I was. My father called me a disgrace. That is certainly not honorable or respectful of me. So don't even try and tell me how it was or who is at fault. It was only out of respect for them that I made the effort to talk first. When a parent says those things are they deserving of respect. I still respected them enough to not have my girlfriend even come to the house to get me or meet me. I met her where she was staying. Did I leave them? No I stuck it out. Even in the midst of judgment and harshness. I continued to talk it out and that is why we have the relationship we do today. You weren't there so don't point a finger at me. Respect goes both ways.
Respect and honor is not due someone because they gave you birth. That is earned when both sides are adults.

 

If that is the way you really feel I pity you and feel sorry for you. It's a shame.

 

Actually yes, because otherwise then any intimate friend could become a potential rumble fish.

We have deeply affectionate and personal relationships will all kinds of people, including family, young, old, same sex, opposite sex, and those relationships can be very intense emotionally. The normal course is for male/female to mate, and unless you are defective in the head, your mate will not be a sibling, child or parent.

Of course it's genital attraction. To think otherwise is quite bizarre.

 

Great points!! I especially respect that you sought to "feel" what others might; that is a decent and effective form of HUMAN empathy.

And you are not a "wuss", because you have/practice something that many avoid... you show COMPASSION. That makes people (like you) stronger; the BULLIES and BRUTAL IDIOTS of this world clearly lack the elements of good character which a compassionate person possesses.

Never stop trying to relate to others; in doing that you give something to this world, that a rigid, legalistic or intransigent person cannot manage to do.

 

What goes around, comes around. Your lack of compassion and sensitivity will eventually bite you in the butt. It is merely a matter of time and circumstance.

 

What is sad, is that at some point what he has served-out into this world... will come back to visit him in some way (or many). How we contribute to this world, has a way of reflecting upon us, it is virtually a fact of reality.

 

I agree. One does reap what one sows.
It's a sad state of affairs when someone can hate so much. I have seen to many gays abused and wounded to the very core by family rejection. No one really knows how much damage they can do to a person with only a few words.

 

You're correct; they DO that kind of thing to others, then wonder why the world is as screwed-up as it is. That ugly, hateful, bigoted BS adds up.

 

If I were straight and had children I’d react rationally and accept them.

Someone’s desperate to draw attention to themselves .

 

My son comes in, he says, "Dad, can you sit down? I have something to tell you."

I nervously sit down.

"Dad, I'm gay."

I breathe a sigh of relief. "Oh, (*)(*)(*)(*), is that all. Phew. When you got all serious I thought you were going to tell me something terrible, like that you are a Cowboys fan or something. You still like the Eagles, right? Nothing happened to that, right?"

"No, nothing. Go green."

"Ok, then. Well, have fun with your gay friends. Glad we talked."

 

After sacrificing to raise you....they should have your respect. It has been my experience that children who do not respect or honor their parents tend to be emotionally stunted.

To say that they have to earn your respect is plain bratty.

I do point the finger at you. The world revolves around you. That is my opinion.

 

or you could take him shark fishing

 

Ask questions to acquire information.

Research the subject.

Screen partners. Make sure he doesn't hook up with losers. No losers.

 

Survey says: padded cell for you.

You are a poster child for sterilization.

 

The poor self image and worth thing takes its toll. It can end in suicide and other antisocial behaviors. A damaged self image can also account for promiscuous activity as well when a person is seeking any sort of acceptance. This is not only the case in the homosexual community but heterosexual as well.
And those that spread hate only make the problems and the separation greater.

 

I agree with you on both counts.

 

That's great I love it. Thanks for sharing.

 

The exact opposite of what you have stated is true. It is those that push hate make the world a far worse place.

 

They had my respect as we grew up and still do. I certainly respect them in there home. There are things I will not change. They have done nothing to keep my respect. They have what they have because of the past.
How can I respect a man my father when he has said maybe twenty words to my wife since she and I have been married. He is ignorant and rude at times to her and me.
I have not given up on loving him. It is his way and I doubt very much change is in the offing.
You can point a finger at me if you like. But it is a hollow accusation when I put up with his behavior. Even my siblings who are all straight have spoken to him and mom about the situation.

 

Solid advice.

 

So many twinks think I push hate.....I don't.

I just say what, and how I feel about sick homosexuals and the gay lifestyle. I do not encourage anyone to do or say anything.
My business is mine, and theirs is theirs. I just hate when gays push their lifestyle on those that are normal.
And I will not tolorate for that.

I am a male who prefers a female for a love companion or mate. I do not go around pushing my normal lifestyle upon anyone. If a sick homo man prefers another sick homo man's butt hole. Go ahead....They can share each privates all they want.

Just don't go around the nation asking to be accepted as a norm of life. You sick bastards are not normal.

The sick are always sick....and their uncurable sickness will eventually kill them.

FACT

 

WTF's a 'twink', and you are certainly giving a good impression of someone who is engendering ill-will towards homosexual people.

I'm sorry, but the only thing you and I share is the need for a female as a sexual partner. That is the statistical norm (which is a subtly different concept from being 'normal') and nothing of which to be proud (unless you consider being born with the same drives as 90% of humanity to be an achievement).

Homosexual people are not inherently sick in any sense of the word, and nothing gives you the right to call them uncomplimentary names, especially to their faces (as in this case). Homosexuality occurs in nature, and to that extent is natural (another sense of the word 'normal').

Because we heterosexual humans are in the vast majority does not mean that we are entitled to oppress the minority who may have a different natural orientation. If you are incapable of that level of ethical thought and conclusion, be so kind as to refrain from insulting people with intolerant pronouncements. Those may gain some traction with a very few feeble-minded bigots here, but I doubt the majority of people on this board will think better of you for it.