Your child says I'm gay. What do you do?

I think a twink is an Englishman.

 

LOL, oh really? I never heard that before.

 

Your choice of words reflects hate, fear, and anger. If you don't want to be seen as a homophobic who breeds hate you may want to change your selection of words.
You show an attitude that when spread causes far more problems than it solves.

 

If 'dixie' doesn't see that; others surely will. (It is so important that you say it, so that they might consider what's said.)

Thanks!

 

An honest post well spoken.
Living in the homosexual minority all my life I have dealt with people of good spirit such as yourself and a number of posters that have participated on this thread.
I have also had my share of those that hate. I have seen such hate destroy families and lead children teens young adults and adult gays to suicide addiction and any number of things. The destruction of self image and self respect leaves a person with nothing.
You reflect so well in your words the truth of the gays of the world. IT is ignorance and fear that causes the real hate. Ignorance about the people one hates. Fear is that the hater believes that he or she is less because others become equal. What happens in reality is that they do not get less we all grow and become more fully human.
Thanks Leo for your lovely sharing.

 

It is really an old fashioned slur for gays. I don't hear it much anymore. It is along the line of queer and so on. It usually refers to males. Females are just dykes.

 

Thank you for saying so.

 

You are most welcome. I don't claim to understand things better than that poster, but I think what he, and others, said was totally unnecessary, inconsiderate of your feelings, and very insensitive. You, and other gay people, should not have to put up with that sort of thing in any civilised company, and that is why I am drawing attention to it.

 

Your aggressive anti-homosexual tirades are starting to suggest otherwise.

 

Sounds good. Now go get your old man a beer, and mow the lawn!

 

It's not a "lifestyle choice". If they're gay, then they're gay. What's to disapprove of? I say just accept it and move on with your life. You'll be much happier that way.

 

I hope you realize just how misguided you are some day. This is a sick worldview.

 

He says things like that, and will also complain about and wonder why he might also be watched and followed by the authorities (at some point in the future).

People saying weirdly-strange and potentially-dangerous things, should not wonder about others being interested in them. Who would advocate murder openly? Likely few. Who would suggest a type of dangerous DEHUMANIZING of homosexual people, for any number of hate-filled and misguided reasons... MANY people would and do.

I don't know about anyone else, but I take EVERY WORD I say here very seriously (that those with the power/technology to attribute those words to me personally... just might do so).

THAT someone would suggest or openly advocate for the murder of others, isn't someone I'd find to be credible at all, MUCH LESS trust with anything (but drawing breath, for sustaining his/her own body).

Bigoted, ignorant, hateful JERKS and ruthless BULLIES, deserve all the philosophical disdain that decent human beings can direct AT them.

 

I agree. I think to many people place far to much importance on the issue. It is good for the child to make the parent aware and even find support.

 

You are correct.

 

I would send him to a deprogramming camp to hug the gay away.

What could possibly go wrong?

 

If your serious why would you want to try and change your child since nothing is wrong with him or her?

 

You're lying, and you're a PSYCHO.

 

we used these a lot..."Get a haircut!" and "Turn down that da*n video game!"

 

Whoa, wait a minute. I thought you were going to hunt us down. Now you're saying you'll just let us eventually die. I'd appreciate a little consistency here.

 

I do think its a choice. I do disapprove. I don't think its healthy.

But if I had a child who told me they were gay....of course I would have to accept it. And I wouldn't stew about something I have no control over.

 

So what if your kid told you that it wasn't a choice? What if he or she told you they had always felt like this and always wrestled with it. That maybe they had prayed over and over again that it would go away and they'd suddenly be "normal". Would you still feel that they were making a choice?

 

If that would be the case....I would probably know before they would.

Having sex with someone is a choice. Choosing to live a life-style is a choice. And if I believe one person based only on their "feelings" then I would have to believe those who say they have no choice but to have sex with children or animals. You can't separate one into a behavior and one into a "gender". Logically and legally it doesn't work that way.

You can say...."I accept this because it is between two rational adults" But that isn't what gays are saying.

They are saying "I am this way, was born this way, I have the right to be this way and you have to take my word for it".

I don't accept that.

 

You probably would know. But would you bring it up? Would you try to make it easier for your kid to bring it up? or would you just try to ignore it? You are arguing two different things I think. Of course having sex is a choice. Who you are attracted to is not. I mean when did you chose to be straight? "You have to take my word for it?" Well if you trust your kid, why wouldn't you? Your child is telling you about a part of what he is. He or she is saying, I'm gay. That's not the same thing as his saying my friend Jake and I have decided to have sex.

 

I do not approve of homosexuality. At least not in my family. And I never will.

But answering what I would have done if my child had told me they were homosexual? I would just be contemplating on my reactions when in fact I believe I would never know until it happened. So---it hasn't happened and hopefully never will. I want my family to continue the tradition and culture that I was brought up in.