Your child says I'm gay. What do you do?

I used to be a feminist...the man-hating type. During those years the lectures of "choosing to be lesbian as a choice to be a truely free woman" seemed rather inviting.

Many women studies intellectuals stress the importance of women choosing what sexual orientation they want to be...having full control over their sexual lives.

Its been 25 years since college....but I doubt the lectures have changed.

In prison people choose same sex. They must enjoy it...or they wouldn't do it right?

 

So why did you choose to edit out the second half of my post?

 

I didn't edit anything. That part of your post....wasn't there when I was writing. Looks like you put it in while I was writing my reply back to you.

So does that answer your question?

 

I wouldn't say I am equally attracted to both men and women. But I do believe that I and anyone...could learn to be attracted to either.

Every person is different....but ultimately our sexual orientation is not set in stone. Choice and attitude are major factors.

 

'Your child says I'm gay. What do you do?'

THAT is funny.

 

I think that's true in that sexual orientation appears to be on a sliding scale. But in your case I don't think it was a hard decision. I kind of doubt that you ever gave it much serious consideration. But for the rest of us it's pretty much wide open apparently. I get this a lot. It's a choice for me, but it's not a choice for you. I think you'd have to seriously work at it. In other words, convince yourself to enjoy something which was against your basic nature.

But again, since it's a choice, what made you chose in the way that you did? I mean what were your thought processes here? It's kind of personal and if you'd rather not share I can understand. BTW sorry about the above post. I'd edited. You a quite right.

 

There is no such thing as equality in all things...as people are different. I don't know why you are how you are. It could be that you have a rebellious streak. It might be that you had poor role models growing up. It could be that a seed of a thought turned into something full blown and you made an innate decision to go forward.

Who knows?

But....I don't think the gay life-style healthy for people, children or society. I think there is an attitude that isn't healthy. I see a need for gay people to demand that others to validate their sexuality...as if they are insecure. That their should be a red flag. Really...mentally their are issues with homosexuality in my opinion.

So if my daughter or son were gay...it would be that attitude and that incessent drive to have others prop them up that would make me upset. A gay son or daughter...would stew and steam that I was not 100% for their lifestyle. They wouldn't be able to get past it. It would eat at them. Unhealthy. A normal person moves on and builds their own life.

I had peer pressure, a blind date that turned into a relationship (while I hated men mind you...poor guy...surprised he is still with me) , a child, step children,. And I am not a risk-taker.

Perhaps if I had been more of a risk-taker, rebellious and was a little bit more bitter towards men? Who knows?

 

So you would try to brainwash your child into be straight.

If sexual orientation is by choice, why would you need a machine to change it? Couldn't you simply choose to go the other way?

 

Thank you, CKW. This seems to me to be an honest response. Pretty few and far between in discussions like this. And worth an honest reply. Please let me get back to you tomorrow. I have an early morning. t

 

Ditto...decent discussions are few and far between. Hopefully I can tear away and get some rest too.

 

When you are making that choice are you having same sex fantasy's. If not than it is not a choice.

 

What leftism crap? The anti gay right would surely support us.

 

That's funny. You almost made me spit pommard on my keyboard.

 

I have been to a lot of women's groups and women's study groups and was never once lectured or did I ever speak about anyone becoming or attempting to become a lesbian. Not once. Now I have heard much lesbian chat in lesbian women's groups, but none that told anyone to go out and convert a sister. Not once.

Yes in same sex situations such as prison people may do anything. But it does not make them homosexual. It makes them horny and tired of masturbation.

 

Attraction is the only factor that I have found. I have never had to make a choice. I would never bed a male. I would rather be celibate then do that.

 

I believe like anyone else we would like to be seen equal with the heterosexual people. I need no validation at all. I am very happy the way i am. No interest in changing.

Now when you think of it as a choice, do you consider what it is like to be treated as a gay. Why would someone want to live a life by choice being hated just because you exist and breath. Why would anyone for any reason decide on such a path. That would be really silly. I do not enjoy pain and being hated.

 

Of course. You are making sense. And the reality is, that while we can share/compare experiences... that is not the same as scientists sampling certain ranges of human beings.

It is a well-known fact, that people do not choose their sexual-orientation (natural attraction). Of course, there are variations and exceptions... but not so many that they were not able to determine that being gay/straight is NOT a "choice".

 

True. There are those exceptions. But very few and far between. What amazes me is how differently heterosexuals see the world. I have no clue what that journey is like. I would not know how to begin being straight if I wanted to. The sad part is that's the way they understand gays. They do not have a clue what it is like. To bad we can't walk half a block in each others shoes.

 

No one chooses to be straight, just like no one chooses to be gay. You cannot choose your sexuality. That is a fact.

 

The Lord say's..."Parents will suffer for the sin's of the children".

So, with that in mind....If your child comes to you and say's their gay.
And if you do not take the affirmitive action. Consider what is waiting for you.
Really consider what is waiting for you.

Myself....I'd take the demon possesed child gator hunting, and use'em for live bait.

No remorse.....Fact

 

Where does the Lord say what you claim?

And do you have kids of your own?

 

"The Bible"

Yes I do...three son's all past the age of 21.
All are active top professional hunters. One owns and operates one of the largest hunting / resort outfitters in Notrth America. The other two are Hunting Guides in South Africa, and work with productions on the Outdoor Channel Network.
Do they think like their dad?....Yep!
All three are normal.....Married and have children of their own.

Is this a great life or what.?

 

Say, whatever. Either it's a phase, or it's real, or it's a life choice.

What do I care?

 

Well it is true right? That Lesbians are truely free because they don't have to deal with the oppression of men, and the chains that come with being with a man and oppressive gender roles.

I am sure woman studies has not changed that much since I visited.

Well it actually does make them homosexual. In a different environment, with a different attitude (I'm going to be here for a while so I best think differently) comes open-mindness and an appreciation of what wasn't appreciated before.

Your attitude is closed to even the thought of being with a man. Its that attitude that you choose....that perpetuates your single attraction. And....for many hetersexuals its the same.

But if you were more open minded...then things might be different. This is the same for anyone...straight or gay.

 

Really? You would kill your child if they were gay? Is that a fact?